{"id":12169,"date":"2018-01-29T06:34:48","date_gmt":"2018-01-29T05:34:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mojevrijeme.hr\/magazin\/?p=12169"},"modified":"2018-01-28T20:37:04","modified_gmt":"2018-01-28T19:37:04","slug":"ne-volim-te-bako","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mojevrijeme.hr\/magazin\/2018\/01\/ne-volim-te-bako\/","title":{"rendered":"Ne volim te, bako!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Moja trogodi\u0161nja unuka mi govori da me ne voli, no kada je vrijeme da po\u0111e ku\u0107i, pla\u010de i \u017eeli ostati sa mnom. Kako se postaviti? Pitanje je to koje je obiteljskoj savjetnici <strong>Susan Stiffelman<\/strong> putem portala <a href=\"https:\/\/aga.grandparents.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Grandparents.com<\/a> postavila jedna zabrinuta baka.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Mala djeca su strastvena i govore sve \u0161to im je na jeziku i u srcu. Kada vole, vole. A kada ne dobiju ono \u0161to \u017eele, re\u0107i \u0107e da im vi\u0161e niste omiljena baka i da vas ne\u0107e zvati na ro\u0111endan.<\/p>\n<p>S vremenom postaju svjesni mije\u0161anih osje\u0107aja i da ne\u0161to kod iste osobe mogu voljeti, a ne\u0161to im mo\u017ee smetati. No za trogodi\u0161njake je to previ\u0161e pa osje\u0107aje izra\u017eavaju u odnosima crno-bijelo.<\/p><div id=\"mojev-2727753278\" class=\"mojev-u-tekstu mojev-entity-placement\" style=\"margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;text-align: center;\"><div class=\"mojev-adlabel\">oglas<\/div><div style=\"height: 250px;\"><script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-8106111766207173\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script>\r\n<!-- Prikazni 1 u tekstu -->\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-8106111766207173\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"8535551207\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"auto\"\r\n     data-full-width-responsive=\"true\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><\/div><\/div><br style=\"clear: both; display: block; float: none;\"\/>\n<p>Sada kada ovo znate, ne bi vas trebala poga\u0111ati promjena raspolo\u017eenja va\u0161e unu\u010dadi. Mo\u017eda vas ne voli, jer ju tjerate da pospremiti igra\u010dke, ali u njenom srcu ta je izjava potpuno nepovezana s tim da se ne \u017eeli odlijepiti od vas kada treba i\u0107i ku\u0107i.<\/p>\n<p>Uz to, dijete nema velik rje\u010dnik s kojim mo\u017ee izraziti intenzitet i boju osje\u0107aja. Mo\u017eda je &#8220;ne volim te&#8221; za nju &#8220;nesretna sam, jer ne \u017eelim spremati igra\u010dke&#8221;. Mo\u017eda je umorna, gladna ili ne\u0161to tre\u0107e. Pitajte ju kako se osje\u0107a. Pomognite joj da ka\u017ee ono \u0161to misli i osje\u0107a. Takva vrsta komunikacije \u0107e joj trebati u \u017eivotu.<\/p>\n<p>Isto tako, kada pla\u010de jer se ne \u017eeli rastati od vas, pomognite joj da se izrazi. &#8220;Ne znam za\u0161to pla\u010de\u0161, a samo par minuta ranije si mi rekla da me ne voli\u0161&#8221;, nije re\u010denica koja \u0107e pomo\u0107i u ovoj situaciji.<\/p>\n<p>Umjesto da se fokusirate na rije\u010di koje su vas povrijedile, potrudite se pokazati joj da ju \u010dujete i razumijete. Tako \u0107e u kona\u010dnici nau\u010diti kako da vam ka\u017ee ono \u0161to stvarno misli i osje\u0107a.<\/p>\n<div id=\"mojev-384000388\" class=\"mojev-kraj-teksta mojev-entity-placement\" style=\"margin-bottom: 20px;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;text-align: center;\"><div class=\"mojev-adlabel\">oglas<\/div><div style=\"height: 250px;\"><script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-8106111766207173\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script>\r\n<!-- Display-1 -->\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-8106111766207173\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"1465712950\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"auto\"\r\n     data-full-width-responsive=\"true\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Moja trogodi\u0161nja unuka mi govori da me ne voli, no kada je vrijeme da po\u0111e ku\u0107i, pla\u010de i \u017eeli ostati. Kako se postaviti? Mala djeca su strastvena i govore sve \u0161to im je na jeziku i u srcu. Kada vole, vole. A kada ne dobiju ono \u0161to \u017eele, re\u0107i \u0107e da im vi\u0161e niste omiljena baka i da vas ne\u0107e zvati na ro\u0111endan.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3555,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[979,980,198,318],"class_list":["post-12169","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-mozaik","tag-bake","tag-djedovi","tag-obitelj","tag-unuci"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojevrijeme.hr\/magazin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12169","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojevrijeme.hr\/magazin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojevrijeme.hr\/magazin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojevrijeme.hr\/magazin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojevrijeme.hr\/magazin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12169"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojevrijeme.hr\/magazin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12169\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojevrijeme.hr\/magazin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3555"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojevrijeme.hr\/magazin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12169"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojevrijeme.hr\/magazin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12169"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojevrijeme.hr\/magazin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12169"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}